Love is all you need, right?
I think that when I was nursing my babies, I had to work so hard to convince myself to keep going that it affected how I reacted to new moms with a bottle in hand. I don’t know if it was frustration, sadness or envy that I was experiencing, but I knew it was about me and not them or their decision to either supplement or give up breastfeeding altogether.
I suffered from D-MER with all three of my babies, but I didn’t even know what that was until I had survived the worst of it with my youngest. Maybe I’ll write more about it someday, but for now, I just want to say that after going through the intensely negative emotions associated with D-MER, I knew that I would never judge a mother who chose not to breastfeed. Of course, I hoped that every new mother would try, but my goodness is it so much harder than anyone can imagine for so many of us, and there is no end to the guilt created by feelings of failure.
The last thing any of us need is to feel judged by family, friends, or other moms.
Yes, in an ideal world, breastfeeding your baby at least the first year is considered the best way to bond with and give her the best possible nutrients and immunity to illness that you are exposed to.
But, when the stress of nursing (whatever that may be) interferes with the would be bonding, what if…WHAT IF!
What if a bottle was enough?
What if YOU are enough?
What if that healthy baby in your arms, milk dribbled down his cheek, soft chirps followed by the sweetest sleepy smile…what if that was simply enough?
I sometimes wonder if I would have bonded with my babies more if I hadn’t been so determined to continue breastfeeding despite the guilt that came from experiencing D-MER. No regrets, right?
Guess what, though.
Today, I am enough.
Tomorrow I will be, too.
Look at that sweet baby….
you are enough, too.