SPC Skibinski has gone above and beyond to both serve her country and tackle what is probably the most difficult job of all, single parenting.
Lexi was a junior in high school when she first decided to join the Army. She became a Chaplain assistant in 2007 with the hopes of making a difference in the lives of the people she worked with every day. She dreamed of becoming a career soldier and attending West Point and in March of 2008, she found out that she was being considered for acceptance into the United States Military Academy Preparatory School.
“The final decision was based on a few more things they needed from me. It’s a stepping stone into the actual academy. But, days later, I learned I was pregnant. And there went my dream of West Point because you cannot have any dependents while going to school. I was terrified…having a baby as a single mom while being active duty in the army was not in my plans…it was not in my dreams. But nonetheless, I knew that my plans and Gods plan’s aren’t always the same.”
Kason was born on November 14th, 2009, weighing a perfect 7lb 15oz.
When he was only a few days old, Lexi learned that she had orders to go to Korea; with only one year left on her contract, she realized taking a baby with her was out of the question unless she re-enlisted. Because she wouldn’t receive the needed military benefits if she separated from the Army at that point, she signed up for another 3 years and in June 2010, Lexi and Kason moved to Seoul, South Korea.
“It was a difficult 2 years and I was burnt with the Army. We came back stateside in June 2012 and I reported to Fort Riley in July. My plan was to finish my contract, which was to end in February 2014, and Kason and I would move back to my hometown of Naperville, IL. Those plans completely changed in February 2013 when I learned that I was expecting another baby. I again found myself in a difficult position. I really wanted to separate from the Army, but I knew I couldn’t survive in the civilian world with 2 kids.”
Lexi explored the option of adoption until she saw her sweet baby boy on an ultrasound and instantly fell in love. In July 2013, she re-enlisted for another 3 years before Koby was born on October 16, 2013.
She had to leave her boys for a relatively short deployment to Malawai, Africa, and then had plans to peacefully leave the Army the Summer of 2016 until she was invited by the Command Sergeant from her trip to Africa to join the 2nd brigade on their upcoming deployment.
“He knows my family situation and he left the decision up to me. I spent a lot of time thinking about it and praying on it. While I was doing that I had a really good trusted friend volunteer to take my children for me while I was gone. Someone who I know will take amazing care of them. All of the signs were there that I was suppose to go. So I called my division NCOIC and the CSM and told them I would be leaving…and so here I am only weeks away from leaving my children, but also knowing that this is the best thing for us. I cannot wait to see what else God has in store for the 3 of us over the next year.”
Time for some messy fun!